wonderful marriage hits midlife crisis

[Mach1]

We had a wonderful marriage - really.

Sucks to be here, and I won't sugar coat that....

First off, there is little here that will surprise most..

We have seen it all , heard most of it, and deal with this crap everyday.

You will meet some of the best people you will ever meet here. They will guide you and talk you down from the edge of the cliff. Cry with you and share from the bottom of their souls.


IF....

You do the work on yourself.

Then the last year, I got a big promotion at work that was very stressful and took a lot of my time.

He started complaining about every single little thing. I would laugh at him and say that he was manstrating again and to take his tampon out!

I guess he did huh ?

I never took what he was saying to me seriously.

How about now?

I wouldn't listen - just ignored him and what he was saying.

I never wanted to because I was so busy and then tired with work, kids, etc.

But still, I didn't think anything of it.

How would YOU feel if that /\/\/\/\ were reversed....?

My world ended with those words.

My guess is....that it didn't...

We are "friends" and talk/text everyday. We have done a few "family" things together with the kids.

Do what YOU can handle for now....

Nothing more than that...

I gave him my wedding ring and told him that he won. He had officially lost his family. I emailed my friend that is a lawyer and got the information on how to proceed with the divorce and then called him today with the information. For the first time it hit him...what was happpening. He asked me to wait until we sold the house and that we would decide after that what the next step was. He clearly didn't want to proceed. He complained about the money and that he didn't want to give a lawyer any money. I laughed and said that he wants to leave me, but isn't willing to pay for a divorce?! I asked if he thought we would be separated forever? He didn't know, he just didn't want to do anything right now. I told him okay, and that I would continue to give him the space he needs. That I am not in a rush to end my marriage.

Be careful ringing bells Tam....Once they're rung, that can't be UN-rung.....

It is all so confusing and terrifing. All of my friends and family think I am crazy to "wait" for him to realize he still loves me. They all get so mad and angry. It is hard to contantly defend myself to everyone. How do you all deal with the insanity that is all around you? I never know what to do from day to day.

Your friends should be YOUR support...

Simply put....This is my decision, and if you can't support it, then we will NOT be discussing anything.



MLC is a long road, filled with lots of bumps and mountains...

There is no cookie cutter advice for this..

Simply put ?

Work on you, and take this time, to really find out who you are .....





My advice for right now ?

Read the resources Hannah Montana put up for you.....

Really read them and understand this monster named MLC.....


Here in MLC, we tend to lean toward self-growth and healing.


No two MLC's are the same....they are as individual as the person going through it.

For now.....READ, READ, READ.....