The one thing I know I won't do is tell H about this opportunity. I want this to be my decision, I don't want his opinion, and I don't want him to know if I give up this opportunity to remain here. I had already made up my mind that I'm here until Christmas break and then I will re-evaluate my decision. I am debating on telling my manager and director my situation (not co-workers) and also my timeline. I don't think we will move quickly to fill the position and that buys me time to continue on this path I have choosen. Also, based on advice given here, I have never told H that I'm planning to reevaluate my decision in December. Only 104 days until then.
Dagny
I like your thinking. I'm assuming you did NOT tell your husband of your "Christmas" deadline, correct? I generally don't like COMMUNICATED deadlines (internal ones are good, and beneficial), because it's like telling the terrorists "Oh, we're pulling the troops out on December 1st." OK, so then they just wait until December 2nd to wreak their havoc. You tell a spouse "I'll give you until December 1st," and they'll take that as a license to CHEAT until November 30th, at which point they'll beg, grovel, cry and promise you the moon and the stars to not leave their sorry cheating asses.
