Life is truly so much better now. I'm very grateful to everyone on here for helping me through what was undoubtedly the most difficult period of my existence so far.

I'm feeling very lucky to have found such a wonderful new lady, even though it's early days I have a great feeling about us, and it seems she does too.

I've survived working with the OW every week - and think she's mildly distressed by how happy I am. I have finally reached the point of believing I'm actually better off without the STBXW - in fact they deserve each other. I do still wish she'd get the separation paperwork done, but in the end I'm sure it will be of little consequence. Can't actually do anything final until we've been separated for another 2 yrs, so if she hasn't bothered by then I'll get on and do it myself at that point. I know enough legal folks to help me with the paperwork, which at that point won't be in any way complicated.

I don't know why I expected her to in any way keep her word about sorting that out - given she couldn't keep any other important promises it seems.

But enough negativity. I had a fantastic evening yesterday on what would've been our first wedding anniversary - wonderful meal with the gf and my best friends to introduce them all. Have been laughing a great deal lately, camping, biking, hiking, BBQing, drinking and kiting.

I have survived. I am stronger. I love myself, and others love me too. Thanks DBers.

Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.