Of course, I guess in the wayward mind, if you don't FEEL loving, then there's something wrong and you "can't" work on the M.
I did just check on a little litmus test I did Monday and completely forgot about. H has not been wearing his ring for quite some time now. Actually, I believe he didn't know where it was for awhile as I found it some place weird he left it and put it in this decorative box that is in our room. Anyway, Before I left the house Mon. night, knowing he would be home and in our room long before I would be back, I "knocked over" the box and the contents spilled onto the floor. One of those things being his ring.
I have not brought up the ring factor not one time so I don't think he'd suspect a set up. Also, this is a table our little dog is notorious for checking out to see if there's leftover snacks. He's knocked things off before.
Anyway, I just checked and everything is back in the box - including the ring. To be fair, I have not been wearing mine either, but that's different. How? Because I lost my real wedding ring, unfortunately, some time ago and we have not replaced it. Now, I was wearing this other ring from my grandmother that made do for awhile. After the bob, however, I no longer felt I should be wearing a make do ring! If we fully reconcile as H and W, I want a new ring that symbolizes a new M. BUT...this could mean that H is just not going to wear his as long as I don't wear "mine". (Yes, he is petty like that, even though he started all of this.) Secondly, he didn't always wear it even when things were good: some days he does a lot of equipment type stuff and a ring gets in the way.
Right now I would take it as a pretty big sign of commitment if he were to start wearing the ring again, but obviously he did not yesterday or today. I'm glad I forgot about my test though, because it enabled me to not react to the fact that he just put it right back in the box.
SO... it does answer part of my question about his commitment level right now.
