Thank you so much for the links! I will start right away. I have really started to work on myself - I have been hiking with friends everyday after work. The forest were we hike is wonderful and very spiritual for me. A place I can pray since I don't attend church anymore. Meanwhile, I have lost 22 lbs and look fantastic if I do say so :-) I am wearing a 2 piece swimsuit for the first time in 10 years. My H is actually afraid to be alone with me, because he can't keep his hands off of me - seriously. I told him that we have a chemistry that will not go away with a divorce. He keeps saying that sex was never our problem. When I ask what our problem was, he really doesn't know. I don't listen is the best he can come up with.
I am bonding with my Ds and it has been incredible. They are so supportive and wonderful. Our relationship is on a new level.
I am spending lots of time with friends and my mom. My dad and my husband were best friends, they worked together - share the same friends. My dad is sooooo angry that I can't even spend time with him. All he does is bad mouth my H and talk about how he hates him and wants to kill him. It is so sad. My mom worshiped the ground my H walked on. Thought he was the best thing since sliced bread.
I am also going to Las Vegas with my girlfriends from high school/college this month for a long weekend, while my H keeps the girls!
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12