Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

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Hi Dagny,

I'm doing a combo of both.

Part 2: 9 months ago, I told H that there was one person too many in the M. Since OW is still a part of my M, I checked out. Moved out in March. Was dim/dark from Nov - Jan (moved out), dim from Jan to March (back in house), dim again from March (when I moved into apt) until June. Been pitch black for 5 weeks or so.

Part 1: in June, actively, aggressively exposed H's affair to all mutual friends. Exposed to my parents in November. H's parents are dead. Exposed to H's bro in Feb, he doesn't believe me. Friends do.

I'm trying the combo b/c H has been bringing OW around as 'new' OW, completely bypassing the part about year+ A. H told our friends I had A (completely untrue) and that was reason for our D. (also completely untrue)

As for right now, this moment. I am at the end of my rope w/H. At this point, think I'd rather be D than continue to deal w/H, OW & A. Thought that going black would help preserve loving feelings & keep me safe from H, OW & A.

What has actually happened is that some of the realizations that I've had have made me think there is no chance of R M. That may or may not change. Currently, H filed D 2 months ago. I contested, which means H can't get D until 3/2012.

I'm going to sit tight for a bit, then make a decision. I may tell my L to refile, under A, and have H served later this month for his 40th b-day.

Hope that makes sense/helps.