C - Sorry didnt mean to be so harsh. I like to tell it how it is most of the time because I was so ignorant when I first came on this board and needed a kick to the head to wake me up.
You still are playing the "mother role" which shows him you CARE. Ofcourse you know you do we all know you do, but he needs to think you dont. That is how you gain back control. So stop caring about what he does. Stop making "suggestions" on who he should live with etc... Remember you dont care. And you really shouldnt based on how he has and is still treating you.
I'm guessing 10 years ago you wouldnt have put up w half his crap. SO WHY NOW??
Time to kick some a$$ seabass!! I would give the same advice to my sister. So NO MORE WORDS JUST ACTIONS. Box up his crap and tell him to come get it. You will feel EMPOWERED and when he starts to believe the NEW YOU he will be wrapped around your finger. Oh and when he see's you dress sexy and smell good and tell him as you pass by that you are going out with friends.
