Yeah - I hear ya. I was thinking it might not take as long with H since his A(s) was/were short-lived (I believe... 3 months possibly 4, definitely less than 6) and was not ever physical. It truly does not seem like he was involved with one person but just getting his ego needs met with various women from his past - chatting and all of that. I do think that makes a difference as there was no long-term bond with 1 OW.
I keep thinking back to all that H had to say on the marriage weekend: that a marriage should be "exceptional". That was the main one. I keep thinking, "SO..H...what are YOU doing to make this exceptional??? Nothing!" If that's the way he feels M should be, he needs to be willing to work at that.
I guess for now I am not going to press that point but continue to give him space and be patient. I sure would like to remind him of how strongly he made that point, however.
