And Sol - you don't have to think about dating or heaven forbid getting married again (unless you want to of course!).
No matter what happened in the marriage that was less than ideal there also was a groove between two people. And that sort of groove may or may never happen again. But it's certainly not easy to wipe from your brain. One day I think we will figure out how to keep it in our brain in a healthy way but push it aside far enough to perhaps see if a new groove can be found.
It *is* overwhelming to think about and dealing with what is in front of you is step 1.
