Dan - I don't consider my "tenure" here a good thing. The fact that I am still around a year later (and 5 years after my first visit) is only proof that I never give up and never get it right. It's hardly something to be proud of.
I have only started to detach very recently. When my WAW clearly stated "our marriage is over" again, I finally chose to believe that is how she really feels. That doesn't mean I don't hope she feels differently some day, but for once I chose to listen.
You're doing great. The fact that you are now happy in your new home is proof of how far you have come. Sometimes, taking stock of the good things in your life puts everything in perspective.
