I'm guessing he could afford a short term rental IF he stops paying for whatever he's paying for of hers. He makes good money, but I know it's stretched between households - mine and hers. He is always complaining about being short on money and I'm sure that's due to the lifestyle he's living. OW has no regard for the money he's spending. She just told him he needed to take her on a mini vacation for Labor Day and that it was gonna cost $650.00.

I would like him to stay with a family member, but IDK if that would happen. I suggested his parents, but I can only imagine what he thinks about that. I have a feeling they would be in his business non-stop and that won't fly with him.

If he does text or whatever, I will post it here and ask for guidance before responding.


This: "it's best to let them DEMONSTRATE their "sobriety" for 6 months, while you date each other and are transparent with each other, before you let him back into your -- and more importantly, your daughter's -- heart and HOME again." is great advice, but what if he says he can't afford a rental? I know he's racking up debt bc of this bs.


Ouch, PMA. But, I'll take it like a woman, bc it's so damn true. I absolutely agree - I can't even express how much I want to take back the power and the control. Part of the reason I was blowing up his phone with texts the last couple of days is bc I feel completely out of control. Now that I know he's living with her it feels counterintuitive to not do more about it. I feel like I'm just allowing it to continue. If going dark is what I need to do, I'll do it. I'm so fed up with being a doormat and doing $hit that doesn't work or help.

Me: 34
H: 34
DD: 3
M: 8 yrs
H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you"
PA Bomb: April 5, 2010