Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

[Dagny-2]

"Puppy's Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice" for Waylayed Spouses Who Just Got Bombed"


1. Get proof (of whether or not there's OM/OW). Hint: There almost always is.


2. Do either:


2a. Aggressive affair-busting (see Allen A's posts over in Infidelity)

Allen A's Posts

; or


2b. "Set Them Free" (Robx/Gucci approach)

"Setting Them Free"


Can we have a discussion about just these two different approaches/philosophies? They are dramatically different. Who has succeeded with each and who has failed? Why? What worked and what didn’t? I’ve read some of the links that Allen A has posted and it appears that the DBing approach and the Penny Tupy approach are vastly different. I get the concept of the “Great Race” and that makes sense, but the no contact/minimal concept seems very extreme, especially with kids involved. But also as has been stated previously, a lot of both DBing and Tupy’s approach (is there a more formal name for this) are counterintuitive. Which is why we all lament at the beginning about the mistakes we make!

Thanks in advance for the help.

Dagny