While I agree that an MLC spouse can not argue with you if you are validating them (tactical reasons for validation), I would argue that we should be validating our MLCers/WASs because their feelings are THEIR feelings and as such ARE valid (practical reason). Period. We can't and shouldn't argue feelings period. This just isn't a skill that all people (especially we recovering control freaks) have learned or been taught.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
