No, you are not out to destroy H's career, you are out to destroy her criminal butt ... I hope. I am glad you are still going to pursue the ID theft thing. These people shouldn't get away with this kind of crime ... they get brave, and end up doing worse.
As everyone says, and I am sure you're done doing it ... no contact with OW. I bet, though, it felt good to give her your piece of mind.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim