Today has been a pretty good day so far, I have stayed busy at work I dont think about her very much sometimes I wish I could pick up the phone and call her, some days during lunch I miss her, we always ate lunch together 2 or 3 times a week. When we didnt get to have lunch together she would always get a little huffy, it irritated me at the time because I was just trying to make more money for our family, I didn’t appreciate the fact that she liked the time we spent together without the kids I just didn’t get it. I read a thread earlier that Coach posted about the similarities of the WAS & LBS I have never really thought about what we have in common but its clear she's way better at DB than me she has the GAL, and detaching thing down. Its frustrating to me that we are 3 months deep into this divorce and nothing is happening, we had a court date for temporary orders, our lawyers agreed to them at the courthouse we never went before the judge then her lawyer never filed the orders with the court, My lawyer has contacted her lawyer on numerous occasions to file the orders but he has not. This makes everything worse because the times she would not let me see the kids, when she bought a new car all of the things she has done to break the temporary orders I cant take her to court on because her lawyer didn’t file the papers. To me it is amazing that some one who wants to be divorced so bad is setting on her **** and not pushing for a faster end. My lawyer suggested to her lawyer that we go to mediation and get this over with as fast and painless as possible; her lawyer’s response was we have nothing to negotiate. Surely she realizes what it means to her that I filed a counter suit for adultery, and the my lawyer ask for level 2 discovery which gives him a full 9 months of discovery to did up dirt on her why would she put herself through this. All it would take to stop all of this is for her to agree to 50/50 split custody. I read some where that a woman accused of adultery will feel like she is being undressed in public at the divorce trial. Every thing I have read also says that both of you will end up happier if you come up with an agreement instead of the judge but still she insist on doing things the hard way. One month ago this week we filed a motion in court for the court to appoint a child’s advocate for our kids, and a order for a physiatric evaluation on both myself and the STBEXW today they are still setting on the judges desk waiting to be signed. I just wonder why this is taking so long. We are starting to see some behavioral problems with our S7. This worries me because he has always been so well behaved I don’t guess this is very unusual but it bothers me wish I knew ho to put a stop to it but its hard to control anything as a weekend dad and a mom who wants to be friends with the kids..
Rant Off back to work
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
