Hi - new here. My story is pretty similar to the ones already out there, so here's the short version.
Married 17 years, 3 boys (10, 8, 5). In April, H started acting weird and distant, suspected A, confirmed in June (OW works in his office). We are now separated - he is staying with "friends". He sees the boys a couple times a week. I have been doing nothing but research on A's and MLC. He follows the scripts of both. When I thought I was just dealing with an A, I believed there was hope, once he got out of the affair fog. OW is also married with 3 children. Now I believe he is also deep in MLC and I'm not sure what to do with that. Since we are separated, I have no idea what (or who) he is doing. Our only conversations are about the kids. He tells me he hasn't been happy for years, but I find that hard to believe. So do our mutual friends - people we've known for years. He has alienated his family. After reading a lot of your posts, I know that I basically have to detach from him. I am getting a life - exercising, going out with friends, enjoying my children. But the nights are rough. I hate going to bed alone. It's so hard to believe that this man who I've loved for so long has turned into someone I don't even know. I struggle and cry everyday. My heart breaks for my children, who didn't deserve this. I still want our marriage. I still love him. Please... any advice would be most appreciated.
