Wow! What a meeting! Hope he takes your plan of action and comes through with it!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Mila, Wow! Do you feel better getting to say those things to your H?
You're right, all is not well in fantasy land.
Your H is looking to you to captain the ship right now because he just isn't capable. I hope he comes through for you and starts to put some real effort into making the business viable again.
Yes, Lance is right. Probably. But, it seems for the first time some of us are getting little peeps out of the tunnel where up to now, they've been entirely invisible.
You are a strong woman. Most people respect strength. All the strength my husband used to respect me for are now the very reasons he despises me.
Kissak - I certainly hope that he will start seeing the reality....
SA - It feels good to come to a point when you are not worried what you say and how you say it or afraid that you'll make matters worse...I still try to be sensitive but I'm not walking on eggshells anymore.
lance - I don't expect him suddenly turn around just because we had a talk. I'm hoping but I have no expectations.
punkin - there was definitely a "peep" out of the tunnel...when he broke down and started to talk....I got a glimpse of my old H.
In the last few months he didn't even call me about business, just e-mail and since yesterday he called I think 4 times. Yesterday he called to ask me what's the best over the counter medicine for back pain...apparently a friend needed to know....sounded all cheerful as if after yesterday's talk we were the best of friends again.
Today he called about business and also to tell me that he invited D to have dinner with him....and then he had the audacity to ask me if I would drive her to his place. I said NO, if you want to spend time with her, you can at least pick her up....why should I go and drive her to his place? Then he said something very puzzling....he said "I didn't mean it that way, but I thought that since you are where she is it would be easier for you to bring her" Somebody please help me....how is it easier for me? I have to take her to him and then drive home....exactly the same thing for him just in reverse. I just don't know how his brain functions...or not. And this is the guy I'm running business with?
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Interesting reaction from H yesterday. He called me to ask for his rent cheque, I said that I'll put it in my mailbox and he can pick it up. So I did, put it in an envelope and wrote his name on it....a variation of his proper name, his familiar name that me and the whole family call him by....I don't know why I used it, it just came out.....didn't call him that for months. Anyway left it in my mailbox for him to pick up.
Later at night I ran into D at a convenience store, after her dinner with H he was driving her home and stopped for something. H was waiting for D in the car and I just waved to him and continued walking. Then I hear him calling after me, getting out of the car running after me wanting to talk to me. He asked where did the envelope come from?....I didn't know what he was talking about at first....he was referring to the envelope that I had put the rent cheque in. I said what do you mean, it came from me...he said "I didn't recognize your handwriting, did you write it?". I had to reassure him that I did. I guess that H was puzzled that I used the familiar form of his name...but didn't comment on it specifically. Certainly got a strong reaction from him...just found it curious
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I hope your H comes thru too!