Hi All, I did not intend on posting here again (at least not this soon ) but just wanted to post a word of caution to people in a similiar sitch to mine.
When this all happened I had strong suspicions about my W being involved with an OM and had pretty much established who it was. there was lots of circumstantial evidence but nothing concrete.She said they were just friends. On numerous occasions I considered busting the A by either contacting his W or bringing it to their work but in the end did neither and decided that the best course of action was just to let her go which is where I am at right now.
Well I have just had it confirmed and proven that she is having an A BUT not with this guy and in fact he IS just a friend. The OM is someone I met once and knew about but never suspected and there was no trail left.
No wonder it was so easy for her to say she would break off contact with the first guy. As it turns out he was an innocent party in all this.
I am so glad i never made any trouble for the original suspect as i may have damaged his M and put his W and kids through some unnecessary trauma.
So BE SURE before you try and bust an A. I thought I was but I was wrong.
