I don't know your whole sitch so I am only going off what you wrote here on this thread...
Originally Posted By: newgal
I tell myself this - it sucks for my kid no matter what - if we end up divorced, it will suck for him, if we live in limbo, it sucks for him, and if we stay together, but are miserable, it sucks for him. Poor kid is in a lose/lose situation.
It doesn't have to be like this, however it will continue to be a "lose/lose" situation until you change your perspective.
The best thing for your son is to see his Mom, healthy, happy, and not only surviving but thriving.
If you choose to be miserable, choose to live in limbo, choose to divorce or choose to stay together, you have to be happy within yourself with the choices you make, otherwise your child/children will pick up on that.
If you aren't happy, then change...
This is your life, so go out and find your own happiness or you can choose to allow your son to see you become a bitter, resentful person, angry at the world because you are counting on someone else to fulfill your happiness.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I don't know your whole sitch so I am only going off what you wrote here on this thread...
Originally Posted By: newgal
I tell myself this - it sucks for my kid no matter what - if we end up divorced, it will suck for him, if we live in limbo, it sucks for him, and if we stay together, but are miserable, it sucks for him. Poor kid is in a lose/lose situation.
It doesn't have to be like this, however it will continue to be a "lose/lose" situation until you change your perspective.
The best thing for your son is to see his Mom, healthy, happy, and not only surviving but thriving.
If you choose to be miserable, choose to live in limbo, choose to divorce or choose to stay together, you have to be happy within yourself with the choices you make, otherwise your child/children will pick up on that.
If you aren't happy, then change...
This is your life, so go out and find your own happiness or you can choose to allow your son to see you become a bitter, resentful person, angry at the world because you are counting on someone else to fulfill your happiness.
Awwww Thank you so much! You just made my day better.
All I have to say is that after a long, hard, uphill battle, through the avalanches, hurricanes and tornadoes thrown my way, I did learn from the very best.
(((((Hugs)))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I have encouraged him to leave the house, to move in with his parents, but he refuses. He says his parents will only let him do it one time, and he wants to save it up like a piece of candy or something.
So, he respects his parents' boundaries, but he doesn't respect yours.
Yep. Thanks for the slap on the head. I needed that.
Newgal, My S is 9, but he is not my H's. He knows what is happening, and his dad and step-mom are also separated. Poor kids has a double whammy.
I could move into my parents house, but they only have a certain amount of space, and I tell myself that living with H is better than cramming everyone into a tiny "retirement" home. Plus, I operate under the sad hope that he will change his mind.
I know, I know... where is that 2x4?
Hmmmmm.
Puppy
Me: 36 H: 36 S9 (from my previous marriage) D2 Bomb-date: 4/7/10 10/10 Giving it six months to see what happens
