Weird week thus far. H is behaving much more like his pre-crisis self. He is talking about the future in terms of "we" now and discussing "our likes/dislikes". He's even scaled back his nightly running and xbox playing CONSIDERABLY - his 2 favorite forms of escape. Nope - not using this behavior as a future predictor - just making note.
We have not had a R discussion in almost a month now. I'm trying to decide when would be good to do that: now, or give it more time? He has not yet said ILY but has continued to be more affectionate in a non-sexually motivated way.
Obviously, if we are going reach the Piecing stage, we need to get to the serious R work: FT or something to deal with the issues. New Beginnings (the weekend workshop) has an 8 week follow up course that I think H would probably prefer over FT (and much more cost effective). I want to shoot for that but am not sure if I should wait for H to say something to me about being committed or at least saying ILY again....
Thoughts???
I don't want to be impatient and rush things and will continue the 180s/GAL and "matching" his level of affection/interest. My concern is the 8 week course starts in just a few weeks so we'd need to get going on that soon, I think.
Part of me is concerned that if I initiate R talk now, it will push him back into feeling trapped and like I am pursuing. The other part thinks it is time to do some real work here instead of just fence sitting.
