Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

It's been a few days and I haven't posted much so just a brief update. The last few days have been kinda nuts, some personal issues, some legal issues, some bitching from STBXW about the health insurance, some work stuff. When it rains it pours...

I met someone recently who was very open and honest about stuff from the begining and I could sense some future possibilities or at least a small hope of some type of future possibilities. Then something silly sent the whole thing into a downward spiral and it seems too far gone to even try to save it.

Legally things are moving forward and it's all overwhelming, I stand to lose a lot of what I worked so hard for. It's one thing to lose it to her it's another to lose it to the lawyers. They sent me an ivoice and a letter asking that I fund my case with another $10k so they can prepare for litigation...ugh! so I talked to the head honcho there and asked him to reevaluate how they're charging me because the case has barely made any progress and so far everything's gone in her favor.

STBXW called me yesterday on my way in to work- she never calls me really so I answered thinking it was some emergency. She started bitching about how I didn't tell her about the health insurance change etc. I told her I did and I just got the new cards this weekend which are already in DD's cubby at school for her to pick up. She felt kinda silly...then I asked her 'anything else?' she fumbled and said 'what are you doing about Fri, you never got back to me, DD's off that day'. I told her I'd bring her to work with me. She then tried to be nice and said 'you're going to bring her ALL the way to your work? why don't I bring her to my work and maybe you can do a half day or something'. I said 'well ALL the way or not, it's where I work and I can't take the day off so I don't have another choice'. She said 'well like I said I can bring her to my work'...well ok if she really wanted to do that then why send me that first text saying if I could take the day off to keep her since she took the day off when DD was sick. So I told her 'no, it's my day and I'll manage it, just have her ready by 7AM and I'll pick her up'. I told her I'd send her whatever insurance info I have and hung up. I sent her the info via email saying 'hope this helps'. Her response was 'it would've helped me had I known the mere start date of this plan'. So I wrote back 'And it would've helped if you'd told me you secretly decided not to get your own damn health insurance and let your open enrollment lapse. At least I was honest enough to give you a heads up and carry your insurance on my dime like everything else.'

Sigh! life happens.