I don't know your whole sitch so I am only going off what you wrote here on this thread...
Originally Posted By: newgal
I tell myself this - it sucks for my kid no matter what - if we end up divorced, it will suck for him, if we live in limbo, it sucks for him, and if we stay together, but are miserable, it sucks for him. Poor kid is in a lose/lose situation.
It doesn't have to be like this, however it will continue to be a "lose/lose" situation until you change your perspective.
The best thing for your son is to see his Mom, healthy, happy, and not only surviving but thriving.
If you choose to be miserable, choose to live in limbo, choose to divorce or choose to stay together, you have to be happy within yourself with the choices you make, otherwise your child/children will pick up on that.
If you aren't happy, then change...
This is your life, so go out and find your own happiness or you can choose to allow your son to see you become a bitter, resentful person, angry at the world because you are counting on someone else to fulfill your happiness.
