Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

Babh,

I’m sorry you are here, but there is no better place than here to be during this time. The caring and support that you get on this board is unparalleled, friends can’t understand what it is like to save a M. They make think we are all nuts, but if we do save our M, those that are true friends will stand by us.

Isn’t it amazing the similarities of many of the situations, down to the exact emotions and words that the WAH says? I was reading the W’s thread from France and she was describing my H to a “T”, how he was acting, what he said. I guess there are clichés for a reason.

I’ve just starting reading over in the infidelity forum, since that is where I belong, but I like the newcomers for now, take a look at Cuccoon’s thread, there is some amazing advice and links to really provocative reading. I’m only about ½ way through the thread, there is lots to process there. I feel like I’m studying for a final! And I guess I am, it is my life, my M I’m studying for. And this self-analyzing is really hard work. The decisions about what we are willing to do to save the M are enormous. And really, what we are willing to do to save ourselves and our children. I think DBers who try and still don’t save the M are a lot better off than people who skip this step and go straight to D. We are working on ourselves, getting stronger, knowing we did all we could and learning a hell of a lot during the process.

Dagny