Hi, wow, I thought my H and I were the only ones in the universe who were living together, sleeping in separate bedrooms, but doing pretty much everything together as a family still. My friends all think I am nuts to live this way. At first I thought the best way was to live as separately as possible while under the same roof, but as time has gone on, I find it is easier to continue to do things together and for some reason keeps the stress levels between us down. Maybe that is because we are just both in a place where we no longer care much. I am certainly not db-ing anymore.
FYI: Hubby moved out in May 2008 (ILYBNILWY), in and out of our lives a lot for the next year and a half and came back home in Nov. 09. But he never really came back. I know for certain an EA, and strongly suspect an EA/PA with someone else. I often think that he is leading a double life, but I have no way to verify.
One thing I do really worry about is how this affects our child. He knows that something is up and that mom and dad are probably going to end up divorced. I don't know if "limbo" is any good for him since we were in limo so long before.
I tell myself this - it sucks for my kid no matter what - if we end up divorced, it will suck for him, if we live in limbo, it sucks for him, and if we stay together, but are miserable, it sucks for him. Poor kid is in a lose/lose situation.
