A new beginning to an end

[ImprovedRomeo]

(((Sol)))

You know the sooner you realize that you can't change other people the better it'll be for you. What he did is wrong...no one deserves to be abandoned this way but it's his choice and he'll have to live with that. He may not see it but his time will come when he will regret it. You can't change him by talking to him or explaining things to him in fact it'll make his resolv even stronger because you're showing your weakness. Of course, you ARE hurt, this IS hard, you didn't deserve this but life happens sometimes...

I don't think I will ever love anyone like that again.

I think many of us feel this way even after getting past the initial hurt and getting over our ex's. I feel the same way sometimes and it's sad because it'll be unfair to the new person you know? Having said that I think once you do find the one I think you will...over time.

Don't feel inadequate as a woman...funny you say that because I feel the same way right now due to something that happened recently but you gave him plenty and you did more than you give yourself credit for. Look, every relationship (not just marriage) has issues you don't turn your back on your siblings when you can't agree on something? or your parents because they're upset at you...you look beneath the surface to see why they're feeling or saying those things and you realize often times it's because they care about you. It's the same thing here...if he was unhappy then he should've said something or tried to go to counseling etc and not just turned his back and said goodbye-goodluck! that's just selfish and self-centered. They want you as long as they're happy and you're meeting their needs but the min you're not you're cut out without warning. That's BS.

You don't want to find out what he does in his life, it's his problem and it changes nothing for you but potentially causes you further pain. You know what they say 'if it hurts when you do something...then don't do it' - You really have to let him go at this point if it's meant to be he will come around. If not well your life is not defined by one person.

Don't think about dating or relationships too much right now- when the time comes you'll find your Ryan C Crest or whomever you think is hot :)for now just focus on what's in front of you, your school, getting through the D, getting back on your feet and your health.

Did you know that the human brain can usually only focus on 3 things at any given time? If you can think of three things or activities then you can give your mind a break from all this. Sometimes I just sit there and focus on my breathing, my heartbeat and the background noise which brings some relief and it gets better with some practice. Just something that might be helpful.


(((hugs)))