The Next Phase

[pigskin]

I know the feeling well, IDU. Despite how crappy the situation seems, you get some small nugget of sunshine that makes you believe that maybe, just maybe, they are coming around.

Then they go do what your wife did. It doesn't mean there is no hope - it just means somehow you allowed yourself to FEEL hopeful based on whatever. Which is why you took it hard. Don't worry - it took me about a dozen iterations before I developed an ice cold view of everything my W does, good and bad from a relationship standpoint.

In reality, her calling your lawyer should have zero impact on your action plan. It's irrelevant. The emotional impact just shows you have some work to do. No big deal - you've handled worse things.

Accept that you are divorced and act accordingly - but that doesn't mean you can't have hope that somehow a miracle will occur. Just take the view that it is POSSIBLE, not necessarily LIKELY. Nothing wrong with that, anything is possible with God and you have to believe He's at work. But your W may choose to reject that, and that's her problem.