John - Have you gone back and read your 82 page thread? We all had this pegged in the first 2 pages.

Until you stop making excuses and dtop being in DENIAL nothing will change.

You have been given great advice.

Waiting an hour to call/txt her back is not going dark.

Until you admit your issues with CO-DEPENDENCY. You can not move forward.

Please go back and re-read all the advice and START DOING IT.