The trim is awesome! Unfortunately, we ran into some snags and it did not get totally done! But, most is up and it is amazing what some trim can do! I put primer on the wainscoating today and will paint next week when I am on vacation!
I think you should do something fun for yourself too!!!
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Glad to hear the anniversary didn't upset you...think long term here! And on Gatsby's thread in newcomers, she watched an interview on the Joy Behar show with Jason Alexander (from Seinfeld) who has been married 20 some years. Apparently, he had an MLC and almost divorced his wife but due to good counseling he stuck it out. Joy Behar said her marriage ended in divorce because her H had an MLC.
So I am sharing that it was nice to hear public people admit to their struggles with MLCs affecting their marriages!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Worked a little later cutting SS and grandson's hair tonight! Then, went for a walk! A cool front is coming in so it felt awesome!!!
My clients are getting braver...I have had a couple of them ask me in the last few days about H and our sitch. The one today told me that her D and her H got a divorce. The D and grandD had moved here ahead of the H and after she got here,,,he told her he wanted a divorce...I didn't ask if there was an A but have a feeling there was. Then, she told me that her S had an A on his wife 5yrs ago, they are separated but never D'd. I asked her if they talked of getting back together and she said her S said never! My client doesn't understand why they don't just get a D.
There is a girl that has been working temporarily in our salon since about the time that H left...a lot of my clients don't feel comfortable talking with her there (it is very small salon) and I thought it was kind of a God's timing thing that she started about that time...it kept me from spilling everything to anyone who would listen!!! But, obviously, it is a small town and everyone knows about H and I...they just haven't said anything to me but are starting to now...my point is...is that she is going to be moving to her own salon in a few weeks and I am sure that once I am working alone again...the questions will start...
I am also thankful that she has been there as I think it helped keep me from thinking too much or breaking down during the slow times had I been working alone! I needed this time to get strong and to understand MLC so that I can face whatever questions or comments I may hear!
Hope everyone has a good night!
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I needed this time to get strong and to understand MLC so that I can face whatever questions or comments I may hear!
Wow, good point! How would you have responded before? Good thing you feel stronger to face the questions. I have said "I am not ready to talk about it" at least 4 times this week. But I said it in a nice way and I think the people felt guilty for asking! But maybe in your case, since they see your H is with OW, you will not have as many questions...what do you think they will ask?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I have no idea what they will ask but just know that it will be mentioned. Actually, people KNOW about OW but H and OW live in a different town so they are not "seen"...in the beginning right after he left and was stopping here for stuff sometimes he had her with him but to my knowledge, he hasn't done that for quite awhile so them running around here is not an issue thank goodness!
Heard an intersting thing this morning
S14 told me the Drs office called with a message for H about a prescription for Ambien (sleep aid).
1-they still have this number for a contact number 2-H has never believed in that sort of thing and had started taking tyleno pm before he left to help him sleep 3-he is still having trouble sleeping
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CW - your points 2 & 3 are identical to my H. He would never take any sleeping pills and very seldom any other pills....now he is taking antidepressant medication that is also apparently supposed to help him sleep. Yet he is still saying that he can't sleep....
But difficulty sleeping is one of the signs of depression.....
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It is also a middle aged thing, I would suspect men and women in middle age, all have trouble sleeping. I know that I do, and I have been having this discussion with my "friends" that are my age also.
Lance - Could be also a middle age thing...But I'm middle aged...and I did have trouble with sleeping the first 3-4 months after the bomb....but now I sleep just fine....don't need much 5-6 hours....and I feel rested in the morning. My H on the other hand....can fall a sleep no problem, but keeps waking up at the sound of a pin drop and can't fall back a sleep....and when he gets up in the morning he feels exhausted.
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