No, you gave somebody the power to do that to you, so actually you did it to yourself. Read up on boundaries and detaching.
Did you even read the DR?
Ultimately, you are responsible for what you do, and she is responsible for what she does. It's not healthy to own her actions, John. That's why we want you to detach, and you're just not getting it.
It will help if you go very dim (no talk except logistics regarding your son). Go consult with an attorney, and get that all lined up because you need to be ready to protect yourself and your son.
Other than that, right now you just need to let go of this "saving my marriage" stuff and get healthy again.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
