Why would you go totally dark? She is "watching" you. I 180'd my goals. Goal - get my wife to ask me out. So I did what I thought I needed to do to attract her back. Monitor the results and then try something different.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.