I need advice from the vets: Gucci, Robx, Coach and Puppy I am getting conflicting advice and "what if" scenarios.
My W has sent one email a "Thank You" for a reminder since she left me eight weeks ago. I sent her an email sort of letting her go about 4 weeks after she left and went semi-dark for a duration of 3 to 4 weeks. I found out during that time that she went to see an IC and a week later sent me that "Thank you" email. I got too excited and overwhelmed her with 3 to 4 additional emails including an open invite to meet me for coffee/diet coke at a nearby restaraunt after her response.
Recently, I sent her an apology for the affair then told her that I wanted her to be happy so I was letting her go and I plan to go dark. I spoke with a DB coach yesterday and he told me that he would not recommend going totally dark to keep a little communication link to her. Her birthday is next Friday and I was not planning on sending her a card/email...just stay dark. What are your suggestions? She has not communicated with me since July 4th and no legal action to date.
My IC, the same one my W went to (don't know if she is still going) told me when I met with her that she thinks my W is still in love with me (closed eyes and a confirming nod of her head) that she is confused at the moment and to just give her time and space. Hence going totally dark.
The "what if" scenario question is when and if she starts to communicate with me do I ignore her first attempt? Or do I respond with a neutral tone? The reason I asked is that it appeared to have worked that last time I went dark only to push her back to not communicating with me.
