Originally Posted By: Truegritter


I think part of the confusion and indeed another step in this process is when we just stop looking at them.



"Just stop looking at them." I will think about this today. The difficulty comes when I HAVE to see him or CHOOSE to see him because I won't give up my friends to avoid him. But I suppose that still doesn't mean I have "look" at him, give him my mental space.

My resons for staying seem weaker, vauger and more distant each day. That's my dilemma. I'm certainly not trying to influence anyone or suggest that THEY shouldn't stand. I'm just struggling w my own choices at this time.

Thank you

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years