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[schmill]

Thanks for the advice. Puppy, I do know that adultery is the only real biblical way to allow divorce but I also know that God has forgiven me for every sin I have ever committed and ever will. Therefore, I believe for me to love my wife the way Christ loves the church, i need to forgive her the way he would.

That being said, yes I do very much believe that there is an emotional if not already physical relationship going on and no I'm not o.k. with it. She even went as far as getting another phone for fear that I was keeping up with her phone calls and messages. I have no desire to be a doormat but am having trouble with what approach I need to take.

I have read DR and I have, but have yet to read, DB. I'm currently reading Hold on to Your N.U.T.S. I actually have been doing pretty good with going dark. I only contact her about the kids and whenever we do have a conversation at all, i try to be the one that ends it all the while laughing and being as happy sounding as possible.

I have seen some positive results from it. Yesterday morning I messaged her that I would be picking up or DD from school. She called me about an hour before my child had to be picked up to see if I was gonna be able to get there in time. The fact that she called rather than messaged seemed to me to be odd since she has pretty much taken the out of sight, out of mind approach with me since she left and usually will only text me. We actually had a nice talk about our daughter and work and what not. I know that's not a world changer but it did seem like a step in the right direction.

I'm just not sure the best approach on the A though. I feel like I'm letting go but do not want the divorce, so just saying to hell with you doesn't seem the right thing but I called her out on it immediately after she left and I learned about it and that did no good because she is angry and feels justified in what she's doing.