What am I supposed to do???

[sandi2]

Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now

And "that" is what he's opperating from. He has practically told you that OW at work give him an invitation to sleep with her and that is his plan to do so. Then he has the nerve to tell you he is turned on with you! I don't know how you kept from slapping his face.

He is putting his "turn-ons" before his children, his wife, & mother. At some point way down the road, he is going to see you moving forward in your life and that he can't have you.....then that fact will have a lot to do with him wanting to go back home. But I strongly encourage you not to act in any clingy, begging way to intice him back. He would sleep with you and then go find some other woman who thought he had pretty eyes!

I think if I were you that I would stop all talk about the MR to your MIL. I would not ask her questions about H or bring him into the conversation at all. She is going to tell your H everything you say.....and everything you don't say about him. It will take time, but he will begin to think his W might not want him any longer.

You need to really focus on making the most of your time with the kids but also find special time for yourself. Go out with your girlfriends and just have fun. BTW, tell them the rule is to not discuss your M.

You won't have the feelings of moving forward b/c you still love him, but you need to do it for yourself, kids, and your M. He needs to see that his family is moving along with or without him. He needs to see his W being independent, self convident, GAL, and no longer harping on him needing to come see his children. All of this will start to get his attention.

You have discovered that you don't fall into pieces when you don't chat with him every day. You are discovering you have hidden strength. Now, get out there and show spunk and hold your head up high instead of being the beaten down pitiful LBW.

Your D is watching to see how mommy is going to handle herself when a man treats her in such a disrespectful way. Then when your D begans to date, gets engaged, etc., she will have learned how she is to respond to any mistreatment from the opposite sex.