Your H may still be drinking but it does sound as though there is movement in the tunnel...
Remember this is a long journey. I have not heard anything like you did. If my H said what your H said, drunk or sober, it would keep me going for a long time. Getting a shot in like you did at the ow would be the icing on the cake. LOL
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Kitty likes to scratch!
Yes, kitty likes to scratch and bite and hiss too!!!
Anyway, thank you for the laughs. You're doing great!!!
Nothing much to add to my life. I did tell OW that if she truly cared about H, she'd want him to get help. But she's only in it for herself. Probably shouldn't have went that far. Certainly don't need to strike up a email R with her.
I was woke up this morning by the Inspector General's office in Virginia. They are needing some more documentation from me, which I am sending this morning. Don't know where it will lead, maybe nowhere. SA, you said a communication such as my H's would keep you going for a long time. I can't put that much expectation into it. It's satisfying to know that I am still on his mind, but . . . .
I'm feeling kind of low this afternoon. And I know what I know, but I need to hear it from you guys, as usual.
OW emailed me AGAIN, accusing me of destroying H's career, etc. I responded and told her that if she really, truly cared about him, she would want him to get help for his problems, and that she probably knew she was nothing but a band-aide to keep him from having to face them.
Now, I know this is true. If my H's career is destroyed, he did it to himself. I'm really not a confrontational person. I can stand up for myself, but deep down inside, even the OW can make me feel things are my fault.
The call from the Inspector General's office this morning resulted in a call from an agent in Little Rock. I'm to resend all my material to him tomorrow. There is a part of me that just wants to give up and quit. Like, what's the use? How can I want someone who doesn't want me?
We all have days like that...ready to give up...too tired to fight. But as you know by now, they come and go....tomorrow is another day, I'm sure that you'll feel differently.
If I were you I wouldn't communicate with the other woman....either ignore her emails or tell he that you have nothing to say to her, not to email you anymore. I don't see any value in it for you....what are you getting out of talking to her? She only makes you feel bad....don't let her, cut off the emails.
By the sounds of it things are not as wonderful as they appear....the OW is so insecure that she has the need to go after you.
I know that you are a though cookie....definitely not a quitter....so summon up your strength and patience and wait it out....
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Punkin - You know the kind of day I'm having ~ but Mila is right! I would not communicate with OW. Stay dark! Protect yourself! You are in the right spot! IB
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Punkin, I apologize for not reading all your latest posts. but,I just wanted to tell you a few things.
First, you are early into this and you are going to have good and bad days.
Second, do not say or write another word to the ow. You are spinning your wheels thinking that something you say to her is going to make a difference. It isnt.
You are a better person than she will ever be. You know that. She is having an affair with a married man.
You need to step back and let that die its own death because if you continue this way, you are just prolonging it.
So, be the wonderful, dignified, strong, funny punkin we have all come to know. And let the ow and your h blow in the wind right now.
You are giving them both waaayyyyy too much headspace. Your time is better spent on you.
Start to live your life for punkin. Start slowly, if you must - one day at a time, one hour even.
But put the focus on you.
You need to keep moving forward. And you aint gonna do that looking back.
, and I'm D'ed, so XH is allowed to have an OW...........