What am I supposed to do???

[Tay Tay]

I think you should dump his sorry cheating ass. That's what I think.

Also, he's lying to his mother.

Puppy

I feel you PDT. I was looking at my H thinking where is the man that I loved for 12 years. I don't know where he went but I want that man back. The man that I see know I don't recognize at all.

[sandi2]

Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now

And "that" is what he's opperating from. He has practically told you that OW at work give him an invitation to sleep with her and that is his plan to do so. Then he has the nerve to tell you he is turned on with you! I don't know how you kept from slapping his face.

He is putting his "turn-ons" before his children, his wife, & mother. At some point way down the road, he is going to see you moving forward in your life and that he can't have you.....then that fact will have a lot to do with him wanting to go back home. But I strongly encourage you not to act in any clingy, begging way to intice him back. He would sleep with you and then go find some other woman who thought he had pretty eyes!

I think if I were you that I would stop all talk about the MR to your MIL. I would not ask her questions about H or bring him into the conversation at all. She is going to tell your H everything you say.....and everything you don't say about him. It will take time, but he will begin to think his W might not want him any longer.

You need to really focus on making the most of your time with the kids but also find special time for yourself. Go out with your girlfriends and just have fun. BTW, tell them the rule is to not discuss your M.

You won't have the feelings of moving forward b/c you still love him, but you need to do it for yourself, kids, and your M. He needs to see that his family is moving along with or without him. He needs to see his W being independent, self convident, GAL, and no longer harping on him needing to come see his children. All of this will start to get his attention.

You have discovered that you don't fall into pieces when you don't chat with him every day. You are discovering you have hidden strength. Now, get out there and show spunk and hold your head up high instead of being the beaten down pitiful LBW.

Your D is watching to see how mommy is going to handle herself when a man treats her in such a disrespectful way. Then when your D begans to date, gets engaged, etc., she will have learned how she is to respond to any mistreatment from the opposite sex.

[Tay Tay]

Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now

Your D is watching to see how mommy is going to handle herself when a man treats her in such a disrespectful way. Then when your D begans to date, gets engaged, etc., she will have learned how she is to respond to any mistreatment from the opposite sex.

You said a mouthful right there. This whole time I have been thinking I have to do what is right so my daughters will know not to put up with this. I have to do this for my kids. I am going to start getting out more. I will be able to do this with the kids in school. I know that it will not be until I move on that my husband will see what he is missing out on. I would not touch my husband with a 10 foot pole right now. You just told me that you are going to sleep with some random girl. Then tell me that I turn you on...NO THANK YOU. Thanks for your advice.

[TimeHeals]

He said that he would probably sleep with her and that will ruin his relationship with OW. Then he says I am turned on by you right now. Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now.

A regular Prince Charming <wince>

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Tay Tay,

Is your 11 year old a son or a daughter?

Puppy

[gr8 day 2B alive]

The plot thickens...MIL called my husband and talked to him for a little while. So then husband calls me and ask me can I pick him up because he has caught the wrong bus home from work. I went and picked my husband up. He told me that he loves me and cares for me but just thinks that we can't be together right now. He told me that he really doesn't think that his relationship with OW is going to work out either. He said that today a woman at work approached him and asked him if he had a girlfriend. He told her yes. She told him that if he didn't she would sleep with him because he has beautiful eyes. I asked him what kind of woman says that. He said that he would probably sleep with her and that will ruin his relationship with OW. Then he says I am turned on by you right now. Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now. He said that he should not be in any relationship right now. I said then what is the purpose of the OW. He said he didn't know. My husband has some serious problems. What are yall thoughts?

OMG, do you here what he's telling you??

First the office woman asked if he had a girl friend and he said yes! He should have said, no I have a WIFE!

He's worried about how his GF might react to him cheating on her!

Tay, This guy want nothing more then too sleep with anyone who will give him the time of day.

Why didn't he call the OW to pick him up?

You should have told him to call her b/c your "give a damn is busted".

Take care of yourself and you daugther.
Have self respect and don't allow H to treat you this way.
It's unacceptable behavior.

[soleil]

He said that today a woman at work approached him and asked him if he had a girlfriend. He told her yes. She told him that if he didn't she would sleep with him because he has beautiful eyes. He said that he would probably sleep with her and that will ruin his relationship with OW. Then he says I am turned on by you right now. Then he says I don't know I am just horny all the time now. My husband has some serious problems. What are yall thoughts?

My thoughts are that your H is making me feel violent and I don't even know him. What a jerk. otice how he said it will ruin his R with OW, NOT you.

[quote=Puppy Dog Tails]I think you should dump his sorry cheating ass. That's what I think.

Yes!

I was looking at my H thinking where is the man that I loved for 12 years. I don't know where he went but I want that man back. The man that I see know I don't recognize at all.

The man that you are seeing is who he truly is right now. I know it's a hard pill to swallow but what you SEE is what you're getting.

Tay, my heart breaks for you. This guy has taken cake-eating to another gross level!

He has practically told you that OW at work give him an invitation to sleep with her and that is his plan to do so. Then he has the nerve to tell you he is turned on with you! I don't know how you kept from slapping his face.

Me either. I would have wanted to pinch his head off. Tay, you need to cut him loose. No more picking him up from the bus station, calling him, telling him how badly you need him your life. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

[Tay Tay]

TimeHeals-He used to be Prince Charming now he is the frog lol.

Puppy Dog Tails-My 11 year old is a daughter.

gr8 day 2B alive-I heard as soon as he said yes he has a girlfriend and not a wife. I wanted to slap him in his face. The reason that I think he is so worried about the OW reaction to him cheating on her is because he lives with her. He knows that if she gets mad with him and put him out he has nowhere to go. I asked him why didn't he call OW and he said that she was at work. I can't lie by me not seeing him for 2 weeks I did want to see him and that is why I agreed to pick him up. I know that I have to have self respect for myself and his behavior is unacceptable. I thank you so much for your advice.

soleil-I have definitely wondered is this who my husband really is and it took him 12 years to show me this side of him. I am going to have to let him go because the heartache is not worth it. He is headed down a road of destruction and alot of STD's. I am staying off of that road. Thanks for your advice.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

TayTay,

One other thing. Since you know there is OW, do not sleep with him.

[TimeHeals]

Since you know there is OW, do not sleep with him.

Yup. Don't want an itch you can't scratch... or cure.