But you guard those emotions carefully, so you won't look "foolish" and won't "lose". Those things you keep to yourself are the things he needs the most.
QFT
This made me LOL quite a bit.
"Those things you keep to yourself are the things he needs the most"
This is most likely what the QFT was directed at.
But.. he does not really "need" that right now. I think it goes back to my statement that "people go with what they know". We.. people.. like security. We like knowing the outcome. It makes us feel "safe" and "warm". But.. that same "security" makes us less likely to grow. It narrows the scope of our view of life.
Lets take this statement and look at it...
"I didn't like the way the M was going... it needed change.. I didn't know how to turn things around."
Now.. Dumped said it.. I just changed it some.
For the sake of the argument.. "He" felt the same way. So both of you knew.. this was not gonna last.
So you can't say "I never saw this coming". Cause you did.
He just reacted first.
The reaction is the same one you would have had given the appropriate amount of time.
What if "he" was posting here now instead of you?
Would we be saying anything different?
Put yourself in those shoes.
Dumped.. You have done everything right "here".
There has not been much "drama". You have not made the situation worse. You have covered your "emotion" well.
To me.. that gets you the gold star.
You listen.. to a point. You understand.
The kicker is.. you still can't "see" that this is just simply your BFF.. trying to change your R. Neither one of you knew what to do. But both of you wanted a change. Someone reacted.. and evoked a change. Most likely because they wanted to "see" who you really are.
