I love her. I do. I love lots about her. Do I want to be with her for sake of the kid? Probably.
Is that the only reason? No.
Can I define those other reasons? I don't know.
Originally Posted By: robx
No regular sex, I'm thinking poor communication, not a great friendship, probably no common hobbies/activities, etc.
Regular sex? Yes. Good sex? I settled for less than good sex alot of times
Poor communication? Hell yes.
Great friendship? Yes.
No common hobbies/activities? No. We're share lots of things together.
You're right. 80 pages in, and I show zero progress. Natta. Zilch.
Do I consider myself valuable? Not in my R. In my work/friends/everything else... yes.
Thanks bro. I needed this.
Time to go back to the drawing board.
Ultimately, I do want to be with my W because of our kid. That's what's guiding me in all of this. After stepping back, reflecting, and understanding our R, I don't like it all where it is or has been. I want something different.
Great friendship with someone who has cheated on you several times and dropped the "bomb" on father's day of ALL DAYS?!
Are you serious?
That's a great friendship?!
I think you need to re-evaluate the definitions & answers you apply to these questions.
Poor communication but a great friendship?
Are you making excuses for yourself and for her?
You are way too young to be dealing with this bull$hit, you guys aren't a fine wine, will not get better with age, if you have these issues now and stick together, these issues will haunt you for the next few years until one of you spontaneously self-combust on the spot.
Staying together for your kid may sound noble but you will just be teaching him how his mom treats his dad and to expect the same thing when he grows up and gets married if he gets married at all after you guys have thoroughly scared the $hit out of him with your antics.
