Basic rundown on my sitch is that H is military. He deployed to Afghanistan in July 09. We were fine, except one fight in late Dec-early Jan, but we bounced back and things were fine again. In May he said ILY one night and the next time we talked he was brief, didn't say ILY, the next day he said he felt divorce was best for us. At first I agreed, mainly out of fear, him being over there, having a history of depression and what not. I didn't want him to get mad over me saying no then do something drastic. Over the next few months we talked, but very little, he just didn't seem to want to talk to me. He came home in July, me, D and his family went to NY to welcome him home. We spent like 8 days up there and it was pretty good. We dropped D talk and I thought maybe we were going to try and work. He came home on leave in August and filed D papers without saying anything to me. He pretty much refused to see me, only saw D 3 times out of 15 days here. A few days ago I got confirmation on there being an OW and confronted him about his lies. He's lied to me about everything, and i mean everything, he denied but has talked to me once since and didn't make anymore attempts to deny or explain.
As of right now I don't know where OW is, if she's still here in my hometown (in TN) or in NY with H. H also has a TBI (diagonosed while he was still deployed and we were still ok) and an IC I'm seeing also says it sounds as though he has PTSD on top of it.
Sorry for the not so brief fill in, haha.
Last edited by KellBell0820; 09/01/1012:44 AM.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
