I thought it was a pivotal moment when your H was explaining the problems with lilacs and you said 'I want one anyway'.
I'll bet your H is happier getting those lilacs for you than he would have been talking you out of them.
I love lilacs too. One reason I rented this apartment is the big lilac bush outside my door. Their flowering season is very brief each year, but there is nothing else like the fragrance of lilacs.
My summer has been pretty good. (Happily, there is still a month of summery weather ahead where I live.) I've been a bit frustrated that I haven't progressed as quickly as I thought I would in rebuilding my life. I'm getting there though. I think I underestimated how profoundly living with emotional abuse affected me.
I am glad that your H seems to be rising to the occasion. I tend to think that will continue. Either way, it is clear that YOU are stronger now, whatever happens.
