I'm not sure Tay, in my sitch I've largely left my parents out of it. H hasn't done the same (as his family knew about this OW), but his mom is trying her hardest to stay normal. She still calls me sometimes, still watches D for me, got me a birthday present and invited me out to lunch tomorrow (still unsure if I'll go). But I don't think I'd let her go through with a plan like that. If your H is saying that he just wants you to let go, then let go. I bet that's the last thing he's actually expecting.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness