ADVICE NEEDED ASAP... I called my mother in law today to tell her all that has been happening. She told me that she did not want to say anything but she can hear the pain in my voice. She said that my husband told her that he is not in a relationship with this woman. He told her that he does have feelings for her but she does not want to be with him. He told his mom that he moved in with her to keep her from going back to California (where she is from) because she was about to get evicted. So he moved in to help her with the bills. His mom said that he calls her and ask her what to do because she has a boyfriend that stays over to the house. He gets upset when he hears them sleeping together. My husband mom says that she always tells him to come back home to me. She said that he is using the OW as a scapegoat to try to get me to let him go. Our whole relationship I always told him that if he cheated on me it is over. So she said that my husband feels like if he tells me that he was in a relationship I would just let go.
She said that my husband told her that he intends to come home one day but not right now. She said that is why he is able to still spend time with me the way that he does. She said that the day I spoke to the OW that she was at the beauty salon. She was talking in front of everyone in the shop. When my husband came to pick her up she outed him in front of everyone. She told him "why are you lying to your wife about us". My mother in law said that is why he is so mad at me because she embarassed him in front of everyone. My mother in law wants me to call her and my husband on three way. She said that is the only way to make sure that nobody tells lies. She said she is going to tell him that we need to start over. She is going to tell him to come home. She said that she is going to tell him that if he does not want to come home to let me go. I don't know if I agree with that but what are yall thoughts on this.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)