I've actually been in class all today today - and last night! I'm taking 3 this semester including a lab, so a full plate for me without even counting THIS class. Of course, this one is probably the most important...
This leads me to my 2cents I'm going to add here - or nickel - depending on how much you think it's worth:
I understand the point being made about needing recess. You can focus so much on all of this that it impedes your progress. What has helped me SO MUCH is getting my mind totally off R stuff and on to other things. Going back to school has been the best possible thing I could do for SO many reasons. #1, gives me a sense of self-worth and confidence, and reminds me I am smart and able achieve things on my own. #2, it keeps my mind BUSY with all the homework and studying so I don't have as much time to feel sorry for myself, focus on the R, or worry about what H is doing. Last week when I was off (between semesters) my mind was more focused on H than it needed to be as you know! #3, GAL is good for detachment, good for showing H a person of respect and making me a much better option. #4, I get a chance to meet new people and socialize. It reminds me that I truly am a person that people like to be around!
SO....applying the lesson here: Find something you can do that is "self improvement" that is totally unrelated to improving yourself as a spouse! Find a new hobby or something that makes you get out there and accomplish something. Or heck - maybe even sign up for a class even if you don't need to finish a degree - just because you're interested in it.
