About the "aha moment". I think we all get there some day. Maybe not as quickly as we should but we eventually get there on our own timeline. I think I might have had mine last night.
You're doing a great job dealing with things.
Good luck with the house. Hope it works out for you.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch