I'm confused.

When has doing what she wanted worked?

Once again. She is the one that had multiple affairs, she is the one that has said she is done and doesnt want to be married to him.

She is the one that is CONTROLLING the R. When she calls he answers. When she says to come over he goes.

How has that mentality been working?

DB principle #1 - Stop doing what doesn't work. Just because she says the reason she had the MULTIPLE AFFAIRS is because he didn't spend time... blah blah blah.... What creditability does she have???

Until he takes back CONTROL and RESPECT nothing will ever change.