I think it's OK to let go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I had the vets thread removed because I felt there was too much revealing information on there, and I was going public with some of you folks on the alt.

I admire the fact that so many folks here have fought so hard for their marriages. It restores my faith in the depth of human bonds.

Sometimes those efforts are successful in restoring a marriage, sometimes what looks successful at first doesn't stick, and sometimes the marriage isn't restored.

I think, however, that the fight is a good one so long as it isn't about outright denial about what is happening. I have learned a lot on this forum (and I have a lot left to learn no doubt).

My marriage, however, has moved from limboland onto the fast track to dissolution, and I think I just have to accept that. That doesn't mean I won't wonder about how it all happened sometimes, and that doesn't mean I won't have sad moments (especially around key events like the upcoming "getting served" and the eventual dissolution).

Sometimes things just don't turn out the way we might have wanted them to turn out. I know that it's not over until it's over, and I know that even then it's not over for some folks (especially those with kids). For me, on the other hand, I have to start living my life like it is over.

I will probably continue to post here even though some of this stuff is hard to read in the context of my personal situation, but I think it's OK for ME to let go.

Just read your initial start to this thread after seeing you post on mza8 thread.

Have you friended me on the alt?
greatday tobe alive