W just called, left VM. Second time she's called today. First time S4 left a msg saying he loved me.
She just called now and S4 left a voicemail saying, "Daddy we would like to invite you over for dinner."
Uhh. S4 is in the middle I think.
I have plans - going to volunteeer at the soup kitchen until 6:30 tonight. Probably won't be able to make dinner, but she's inviting me over (through S4).
What should I do?
Crap, she just left ANOTHER VM with s4 saying "daddy we would like to invite you over for dinner" at my WORK PHONE.
What should I do?
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
As the WAW, I think it's horrible that your wife is putting S4 in the middle. I would call so I could speak to my son and tell him that you have plans but you love him. Tell him that the 2 of you can do something special another day. Don't engage the W if at all possible. I get that she may answer but I would just keep saying you need to talk to you son since HE called you.
As you know, I'm still new at this but if it's what I would do.
Doodi
"I feel like Rocky in the fifteenth round, beaten beyond recognition, when I realize, the only person I've been fighting for is...myself."
You should respond and tell both her and son that you have a commitment until 6:30. Then work out if you will go over after that or perhaps tomorrow. And when you are there you will focus attention on your son, while treating her like someone you used to know but haven't seen in a while. Friends, but not so close that you would tell her your secrets.
I had to run into meeting here at work and she called two more times before I could return the call. Also sent a txt that said "are you alive?"
Haha.
I called back and asked to speak to S4. He went to a playplace today and asked me if I could come over for desert tonight. I just talked to him and asked him about his day, he was happy to talk to me. Then he handed phone to W.
W talked about the playplace, what they did, blah blah, I just answered with one or two word sentences, kept saying, "oh yeah?" while she continued to talk. She then asked if I could come over for desert tonight. I told her that I had plans until 6:30pm tonight and that I would like to take a raincheck. She said that was fine. Then she asked what I was doing (as in plans tonight), and I said, "I'm at work" as if she was asking what I was doing right then.
After I told her I wanted a rain-check she said, "How about tomorrow night then?" I said I didn't know my plans yet, but I would let her know. She then said that she needed to know because our mutual friend wanted us to come over and she needed to know what to tell them as far as us coming over. I said, OK, well I'm not sure of my plans, but put me down for tomorrow.
Obviously, desert at her house turned into guilt-tripping me to go to a friends house with her so she could see me. She never mentioned a friends house until I said "I don't know my plans yet". I'm not going to avoid her, but I'm not going to be at her beck and call.
I'll go over tomorrow focusing on my S4. That's it.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
? I'm not pursuing at all. I let her call me 6 times, leave 3 voicemails, and send 3 text messages before I called her back. It was concerning our son. I declined an invite. Then she invited me to another time with our son and mutual friends. I said I didn't know, but pencil me in.
Is that bad?
PH - I don't get it either
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
