Originally Posted By: Missher
So, I am waiting to see what will happen this week. Did she file or not?


How can you know what she is going to do or why? So the day you have been dreading might actually come...

And you're still here man. And you are doing great...

I am proud of you. What you have done in the past few months...

Cause I think

Originally Posted By: missher
Is it another level of detachment? I am not sure.


This is where you are and where you need to be. You were watching every little thing your W was doing and projecting it

...even when you said you weren't.

This is new skin your wearing and it feels a little weird huh?

Originally Posted By: missher
Thinking about what divorce will be like, it is not what I want but I cannot control it so I better start at least considering it as a real possibility.


This is good. You shouldn't be afaid of this anymore. It is not what you want but it takes two not to do this...

It is her right and her choice not to be married to you.

What will Missher be if this happens?

Who will he be?

I know you love your W.

I know you want your M.

THAT does not define you. For a long time we think it does.

You have grown beyond that and it feels funny to let that go.

NOW

You have the opportunity to truly be free.

What will you do with your freedom?

The barn door is open...you can run.

or

stay.

For your own reasons.


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am