If I live to be 100 I don't think I will ever understand my STBEXW.
Well, even in good times... I think it's the kiss of death to think you will ever understand women Magical creatures.
The trick is being OK with that. Stick to your guns on custody stuff and start out with 50/50 and then go for what is going to be best for the kids from there (depends on stability of both homes IMO).
Enjoy yourself. Even try to enjoy this legal process. Just do what you have to do, make the plans you ought to make, take care of what needs taking care of, and have the best time you possibly can have with it all. Don't fight the changes You're going to be better than OK.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-