Thinking about this a bit more, do you mean generally that the unhealthy thing going on is us doing "nice" things covertly for each other in terms of hoping to manipulate the other person's emotions towards us instead of being overt about inviting the other person to participate in together time with us in something we both enjoy doing (together)?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
